14 on 14: Alternative Valentine Songs

NOTE: This was an unpublished article that I wrote last year. For some reason, it somehow got lost in the shuffle of so many other V-Day pieces at the time. I decided to further improve this and publish it in my Facebook page and now here.

Happy Valentine's Day!

CAN’T STAND LOSING YOU
An alternative soundtrack for Valentine’s Day
By EDWIN P. SALLAN


IT’S Valentine’s Day again and all the mush you can ever want (or dread) is just around the corner. Yes, all those silly love songs that McCartney and a whole lot of other artists sold tons of records with. The way we celebrate V-Day, expect all kinds of love music to be playing in your consciousness and sub-consciousness all day. Many of you may have even stolen a verse or two from those songs and pass them as your own in the greeting card that accompanied your gift to the significant other.

But see, that’s the thing. When it comes to matters of the heart, the object of our affection or desire need not always be the significant other, at least not the only one. Love can and does come in many forms and circumstances and not that each one deserves its own soundtrack but with so many great music out there, do you really want to be humming along to the greatest hits of Michael Bolton and Celine Dion at this time every year? Then check out these alternative gifts of music.

“I’ve Just Seen A Face” by The Beatles. There are countless tunes written about love at first sight but few are as as thoughtfully rendered as this acoustic serenade sung by, well, who else but Sir Paul himself. The way he sings it very fast feels like he actually wrote it at, well, first sight: “I’ve just seen a face/I can’t forget the time and place that we’d just met/She’s just the girl for me/ And I want all the world to see we've met.” Hmmm, hmmm, hmmm, na-na-na.

“Love Untold” by Paul Westerberg. The ex-Replacements’ take on unrequited love has an ambiguity to it that partly recalls the masked optimism of Tom Petty’s equally excellent breakup song, “Free Fallin”: “They were gonna meet on a crummy little street/It never came to be I'm told/Does anyone recall the saddest love of all?/The one that lets you fall/Nothing to hold? It’s the Love untold.”

“Don’t Stop Me Now” by Queen. You can’t love anyone else if you don’t like what you see in the mirror, right? As narcissistic anthems go, only this one can “make a supersonic man or woman” out of you. When the late Freddie Mercury declares “Tonight I'm gonna have myself a real good time/I feel alive and the world it's turning inside out, yeah/ I’m floating around in ecstasy” you’ll have little reason to doubt him.

“Everlong” by Foo Fighters. What seems like a metaphor for an unforgettable sexual encounter is also considered as a touching paean to happily ever afters. You be the judge: “If everything could ever feel this real forever/If anything could ever be this good again/The only thing I’ll ever ask of you/You’ve got to promise not to stop when I say when.”

“Lovesong” by The Cure. “However, far away/I will always love you/However long I stay/I will always love you,” declares Robert Smith. For those engaged in long distance love affairs, that’s as good as any assurance you can get. Then let the infectious hook-laden rhythm just sweep the rest of you off your feet and everything’s gonna be all right.

“Can’t Stand Losing You” by The Police. Ambiguity is certainly not an issue when Sting wrote this for his recently reunited band. For really, really bad breakups, it can’t get any better, er, bitter than this: “I guess this is our last goodbye/And you don’t care, so I won’t cry/But you’ll be sorry when I’m dead/And all this guilt will be on your head.”

“Stay Free” by The Clash. Strummer and Jones pay tribute to the best friend, our so-called partner in crime who we most likely did some of the most stupid things we could think of in our youth. When Mick Jones sings “You always made me laugh/Got me in bad fights/Playing pool all night/Smokin' menthol,” it’s hard not to be transported back in time.

“Waiting On A Friend” by The Rolling Stones. When platonic is the only way to go, no other tune bonds as well as this reggae-flavored ditty by the Glimmer Twins. Best verse: “Making love and breaking hearts/It is a game for youth/But I’m not waiting on a lady/I’m just waiting on a friend.”

“Waiting In Vain” by Bob Marley and the Wailers. It’s a different kind of waiting for the guys who can’t stop carrying a torch for the one that already got away. When the braided one croons: “It's been three years since I'm knockin' on your door, And I still can knock some more: Ooh girl, ooh girl, is it feasible? I wanna know now, for I to knock some more,” hope springs eternal.

“Romeo And Juliet” by Dire Straits. A rather lovely homage to the most famous tragic couple Shakespeare ever wrote. Mark Knopfler took the story to a different level, providing a more current setting, just the right dose of wit and oh, yes, romance. “You and me, babe, how about it?,” the epic ballad concludes.

“Cruel To Be Kind” by Nick Lowe. Can’t live with her and can’t live without her? For love-hate relationships, Nick Lowe and later, Letters To Cleo has the perfect explanation: “You say your love is bonafide/But that don’t coincide with the things that you do/And when I asked you to be nice you say/You got to be cruel to be kind in the right measure.”

“Romeo’s Tune” by Steve Forbert. “Bring me Southern kisses from your room” and “Let me smell the moon in your perfume” are two of the most famous lines from this one-hit wonder. Romeo is such a Valentine character that I just had to acknowledge him twice in this piece. Hard to resist him when he utters something like “I don’t ask for all that much/I just want someone to care.”

“Landslide” by Fleetwood Mac. Originally about a father-daughter relationship, it’s a poignant lullaby for parental love that is also about starting over and the uncertainties that go along with it: “I’ve been afraid of changes cause I built my life around you/But time makes you bolder and children get older/And I’m getting older, too.” Also covered by the Smashing Pumpkins and the Dixie Chicks.

“Happy Ending” by Joe Jackson. Who doesn’t want it? “Do I listen to my head, do I listen to my heart? Do I try to feel the same as I feel when we're apart? Do I think about the end when it's only just the start?” asks Joe Jackson and Elaine Caswell in this equally lesser known gem from his Body and Soul album. “Anyone can be so hard hearted but everyone/Still, everybody wants a happy ending, na-na-na-na!”

Here's Steve Forbert's Romeo's Tune:

Along Came E.

SHE found me at a time when I was still clinging to a fading dream, when I was still hanging on to something that I knew had already slipped my grasp for quite some time now—only there was still a part of me that wasn’t ready to totally let go.

All of that changed when she came along, starting with a friend request in a social networking site that led to two pivotal things: a schoolboy crush on her gorgeous pics on my part and a brief chat session that somehow connected on a level that both of us can’t still fully explain. Perhaps it’s the similarity of our circumstances. Perhaps it's just about being at the right place at the right time. Or perhaps it was something else. Whatever it was, the only thing she could say about it now was that I made sense.

I don’t know if I ever made sense at all in my entire life. What I do know is that the succeeding days were a much happier one for me as we continued to communicate online or otherwise. Before we knew it, we’re already having lenghtier chat sessions that led to countless SMS exchanges to even lenghtier phone conversations in our homes and offices that lasted for God knows how many minutes or hours.

We talked about everything, everything. The things we like and don’t like, the people in our lives from our friends and families and everyone and everything else in between. We even laughed and made fun of our own personal tragedies as well as come up with private jokes that are now too many to count. We pretty much knew each other (and yes, our surrounding cast of mostly wacky characters) fairly well even before we actually laid eyes on each other.

She was such a constant presence all day and all night long that she became a life-changing equation for me. What was looming to be a miserable yuletide season suddenly became a truly Merry Christmas. Not a day passed by when she wouldn’t put a smile on my face with all the things we were able to connect with, from our favorite things to our twisted sense of humor to everything else we could or could not make sense out of. In such a brief period, we established the kind of rapport that would otherwise take years for most people to achieve.

Having come from my own share of setbacks, there’s a part of me that naturally remained skeptical about all of it, though. What have I done to deserve this strange yet wonderful situation? What was really going on? Where was this going? What’s the catch? Could it all be just a dream? And will it end just as fast as it started?

Well, it has yet to end. Far from it. Turns out we are, yes, just getting started. To cut a long story short, we’re now taking our relationship to a higher level. What began as a pleasant distraction has developed into someone more special, something more meaningful. What we have right now is far from perfect and is certainly not without its own share of quirks, questions and challenges. But in learning so many things about her, I learned a few more things about myself as well.

E taught me not just to move on but to actually move forward. She taught me how to appreciate life the way she bravely faces it—with a grain of salt, with a mischievous wink and with a crackling laugh to boot. And more importantly, she taught me how to have faith again, in Him, in myself and yes, in her.

(Daisies are E's favorite flowers, hence the picture.)

25 Random Things About Me

I'M kicking off this blog with something I posted on my Facebook page only recently. This 25 stuff is something that a lot of members have been doing as of late and although I found it to be a bit silly, I decided to take a stab at it and actually had fun doing it.

You might as well get to know the blogger if you are to find the blogs interesting. So here goes nothing:

1. I'm a writer who actually hates writing since I find it very stressful. But it is one of the things people say I'm pretty good at so I keep doing it, anyway.
2. Paul McCartney is actually my favorite Beatle. His "Maybe I'm Amazed" is an all-time favorite.
3. Regrets, I've had a few. I still wish I could go back in time to correct every mistake I've ever made.
4. I found out I could write when I joined a UN-themed essay writing contest in high school to escape the Math period that coincided with it. To my surprise and everyone else's, I won.
5. I once auditioned as a radio discjockey in the old Rock of Manila DZRJ. I passed several stages and made it to the final panel interview before I got cut. I never tried it again.
6. My original college major was Geology. I ultimately graduated with a degree in Economics, same course as Mick Jagger and (not that it's something to be proud of nowadays), GMA.
7. I often find myself in strange, bizarre situations I can't believe I deserve. Story of my life.
8. Two years ago, I thought I'd spend the rest of my life in a foreign land. Now I really don't know.
9. I was a law student for exactly one semester because of a scholarship I needed to complete.
10. My favorite sub-genre of rock is powerpop. Yes, there is such a term.
11. I'm an Aries born on April Fools Day in the Year of the Dragon. Explosive combination, people say.
12. I can't swim. Really.
13. My life has more ups and downs than several roller coaster rides combined.
14. I have been a Mac user since 1992 and a Mac owner since 1995.
15. The first album I ever bought was a cassette copy of Get The Knack by The Knack.
16. I always like to ask little kids two questions: "Baby ka ba o bata?" and "How old are you when your mother was born?" Hehehe.
17. Of all the things I wanted to be growing up, a fireman, a lawyer, a DJ, a rock star and a music writer, only one actually came true.
18. Not too many people know I have a day job at a bank for, oh, just the last 21 years.
19. I drink coffee two to four times a day. With Coffeemate at home and with non-fat steamed milk everywhere else.
20. I'm partial to tomato-based dishes like pomodoro pastas, mechado and caldereta.
21. I take things as they come, one day at a time. I found out the hard way that nothing really ever goes as planned.
22. I used to be vocal and confrontational when I get upset. Now I just don't say anything and even often let things go. Age, I guess.
23. Not too long ago, I lost my faith in the Lord. I'm now trying get it back with the help of a few well-meaning friends.
24. I have been a Comelec Poll Clerk in just about every major election since 1986.
25. I still believe in happy endings and hope to find myself in one someday.